Parenting is always evolving. New ideas, methods, and techniques for bringing up kids are always emerging. Many of these “new” parenting or discipline tactics are just some tried and true ones that have been revamped and brought back.
It’s worth noting that experts haven’t managed to agree on which discipline tactic is best. However, they all agree that each style has its own benefits. As you try to decide which discipline method is best for your family, keep in mind that there’s no “one size fits all” solution.
Instead, try and tailor the different discipline styles to your child’s temperament, your family values, and your discipline philosophies, then do what feels right for you. Also, remember that what suits one kid might not work with their siblings.
Here are some tactics that have been around for a while but are finally being given the light and attention they deserve. These are fairly new in being discussed in the parenting world and could have some great results.
This type of discipline focuses on setting firm limits as well as making clear rules and consequences. Kids are told the rules as well as the consequences for failing to adhere to them so they know what to expect. If you’re going to use this discipline tactic on teens, it’s best to involve them in setting both the rules and consequences. That way, they’re more likely to cooperate.
A gentle disciplinarian focuses on preventing problems from cropping up and will use humor to redirect children’s attention from bad behavior. While kids are still given rules, the focus isn’t on shaming them but cooperating with them to find a workable solution. For instance, if you want to encourage your kids to read more, you could set aside some daily reading time and make it a fun activity for the whole family.
Instead of focusing on punishment, positive discipline uses praise and encouragement to help effect good behavior. The emphasis here is on making discipline about teaching your kids why they should behave a certain way or do certain things. It goes well with an authoritative approach so the parent is always the one in control. Let’s say your child has a negative attitude towards studying and you want them to love it. Using this approach, you could explain the importance of studying then work together to find ways to help them change their attitude while encouraging them all the way.
Alternatively, you could borrow a leaf from behavioral modification programs common in therapeutic boarding schools and use these at home. This mainly involves using a combination of both positive and negative consequences where good behavior is reinforced through rewards and praise while misbehavior is discouraged through negative consequences such as loss of privileges or being grounded.
Emotion coaching is based on teaching children to identify, understand and verbalize their feelings instead of acting out. Kids are taught that having feelings is okay but they should watch what they do as a result of those feelings. Parents using this discipline tactic help their children to find healthy, positive ways to cope with their emotions and develop skills to effectively manage them.
If you’ve been wondering how to bring up disciplined kids, these are worth a shot. Just remember that there isn’t a sure-fire tactic that will work on all kids in every situation. Sometimes, borrowing a few techniques from different styles and combining them might be the way to go. So do what feels best for your family.