Something That Must Be Pursued, But Can’t Be Forced
Happy memories are often a matter of perception and recollection. Some of your fondest memories may be of times when, at the moment, you were miserable. For example, that family vacation where everything went wrong, everybody got sunburned, and the whole family was more relieved to get home than anyone could have believed.
The thing is, in retrospect, you remember all the funny little stories from that trip, and you share them, and suddenly what was a terrible weekend becomes a fond, happy memory. In contrast, sometimes your happiest times at the office or college are remembered in sadness, as you realize who you were, what you’ve become, and what has been lost.
So the truth is, if you want to create happy memories, you shouldn’t focus on said memories as an “end game”. How you feel now will have little to do with what you remember as years go by. What you want to focus on, instead, is living life to the fullest with those around you.
When you get an opportunity to do something you haven’t ever done, take that opportunity, and drink it all in. Following we’ll briefly explore a few other things you might want to think about to build memories that last a lifetime.
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There is one important thing that you need to do before you can start creating happy moments: to understand what happiness means to you and the people around you.
Happiness has a different meaning to the individual. One person could be happy catching a movie with his newfound love, while another person might demand an expensive handbag.
If you are creating happy moments with someone else, you need to know what makes the other person happy. This could be harder to accomplish since what makes the other person happy might not make you happy.
I feel that moments are happier when saved in our memories than in recorded videos. The moments become somewhat “manufactured” when you whip up a camera to record the happy moments. If someone else is recording the video, that works better.
So, the best way to create happy moments is to understand the person you want to be happy with and plan for the activity so that the person can indulge in the activity with you and have a good time. Ask to take some photos to commemorate the moment so that you can revisit the moment in the future. Spend time interacting with the people and not trying too hard to record on video, because people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
Creating happy memories is less about what you’re doing and more about who you’re doing it with. By focusing on the people around you, their joy, and your joy – you bring happiness to the forefront.
As a mom of two young toddlers, I’ve learned that the key to creating happy memories is to keep expectations low. We’re all going to be much happier with a situation if we go with the flow and don’t try to overwhelm ourselves with a long to-do list and high expectations of outcomes and behaviors. Finding joy in each other creates happier memories than any specific situation could.