Wednesday, October 3, 2012

What My Facebook Status Should REALLY Be...

Do you ever wonder if someone's Facebook status is the real story?  There are typically two types of moms on Facebook.  #1: The mom who appears to have it all together.  (This is usually the one I fall into - you'll see why in a second)  She posts pictures of fun family outings and regales you with statuses of the funny things her kids did and said.  Some of her statuses read like a laundry list of all the things she accomplished that day and you think, "Wow!  How does she do it?!".  Or there's #2:  The whiny mom.  This mom's kids are chronically sick (or she is), she constantly has a TON to do, and her life is always falling apart - ALWAYS!  I've decided that neither of these can be the real story.  Let's take my day for example...


Here's what my status would look like if I were to post it:

Today the kids and I made forts, created rockets with Legos, got to play "scientist" by making tornado bottles, and had lots of fun with trains.  I even got lots of baby snuggles! :)

Some of you are reading that thinking "I wish I could stay home and play with my kids all day!".  

Everything in that status is absolutely true, but here's what I would have left off:

The baby is battling a 102 degree fever and has not let me put him down ALL DAY LONG!  I'm running on 3 hours of sleep (not consecutive) and I'm not quite sure how I'm going to entertain the kids all day.  My toddler lost "blankie" this morning and we spent a good deal of time listening to him cry while we searched for it.  Finally, the baby fell asleep so we were able to make our tornado bottles, have snack, and do some coloring.  I got lots of pictures so I can submit that project.  (That will pay for one more Christmas present.).  The baby woke up screaming and I had to figure out how to get lunch ready while bouncing him.  Two of the kids fought over the Legos.  My husband called and is upset because I scheduled a hair appointment for the same day that he wanted to pick up bunk beds (*sigh).  That reminds me, I need to call the doctor's office about a bill that we got.  Oh, there's still 45 minutes until naptime, "How about some Mickey Mouse?!".  Maybe then I can wash a load of diapers...

And, just like that, my day doesn't seem so perfect.  I'm not really looking for sympathy.  As moms, we all have days like this.  It's just another reason that it's so important for us to support each other, even if on Facebook it looks like we've got it all together.  My life may look picture perfect, but that's because I'm not sharing the late nights and early mornings.  I leave off the tantrums, the longing for adult conversations, and the need for an escape from teething and potty training.  My job is hard - and it's worth it!  Sometime, though, it's just nice to let someone see the "real story".

What about you?  What's the real story behind your Facebook status?



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13 comments:

  1. This is so true! To avoid being the "whiny mom" I only put things people will find amusing (often at my expense). But anyone who thinks I "have it all together" should just come check out my messy house!

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  2. I am right there with you! When I DO post the reality statuses, I get tons of "this too shall pass" and "you'll want these days back" and "enjoy it because they grow up too fast." I know all those truths. Somedays it's just nice to feel like someone out there gets it! :-)

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  3. I love it! That's exactly what I think when I see the "perfect" statuses on Facebook! Thanks for keeping it real.

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  4. You are so right! What a day! I hope Mickey held their attention!

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  5. As a mom of 5 I can relate to the craziness. I too have those crazy moments. I am the mom who posts the good stuff and like u try yo battle the craziness without feeling like I'm telling the world how crazy it can b. Iol

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  6. OMG this is so funny and so true! I sometimes have to stay away from facebook. I get sick of reading how brilliant and perfect everyone's kids are.

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  7. I have SO many of these days! I often visualize in my head what it would sound like if I did post the reality... and decide it's just better kept to myself (and maybe lucky hubby who gets to hear my rant). :) Thanks for sharing.

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  8. This is so true! I try very hard to not post too much "whiny" stuff, although sometimes I think it's just necessary (but that's rare). I just keep all the stuff to myself and post the nice things and pictures on facebook so that I don't seem like a complainer- although my hubby gets to hear how our toddler has thrown herself on the floor every 5 minutes in tantrum because she needs a nap, but refused to be laid down. And I have homework to get done, would love a shower, and barely was able to wash diapers today. But- luckily those days are rare and I have a lot of great days- so my FB status' do reflect the pleasantries because I'm blessed to have the most of the time :)

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  9. I think I'm both kinds of Mom. When we have good happy days I brag about it and post pictures, then on the bad days I tend to complain LOL!! I sometimes laugh at other people's statuses. But I'm sure sometimes people laugh at mine ;-)

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  10. I am thankful to have my children all grown up now, and I get to watch my grandchildren do to them what they did to me! God is great!!! ;)

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  11. So true! I try to keep it real, because both types can get, well, a little annoying, right?

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  12. TRUE! Im a little of both. More the picture perfect than the complainer. Im 22 and on my fourth kid so when when we have a great day i brag and post pictures because we do a lot of crafts. I feel like im a day care.teacher. But on the bad days or they says they are sick its more of explaining the problem and asking other moms for a solution. For example my three year old is having a really hard timw with emotions and has been having a lot of melt downs so i looked at parenting tips online and it says to make an emotions book and a calm down corner so we will try tomorrow and see how it goes! Then the next day it went so well that i had to brag on how well she helped make her emotions book and how she helped set up the new calm down corner we had to use it but she did fantastic it really helps. So im not much of a sugar coater but im not complaining to complain i think i do it so i can.get advise from other moms. Or maybe my struggles the same.as some one els and they see what ive accomplished so it.may help there situation.

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  13. i thought i was the only one

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